Now with the popularity of the WeChat circle of friends, it is more convenient for everyone to communicate, so there are more and more reunions among classmates. The reunions of various elementary school classmates, middle school classmates, and college classmates will even overlap during holidays. Everyone Feeling, this circle of friends is full of traps!
So, let me tell a story about a class reunion and health.
I have a friend who is a manager in the company and has a lot of work pressure. For a long time, he was almost completely immersed in his work and became very nervous and depressed. In the end, what caused him to stop working was physical problems, various heart symptoms, high blood pressure, groggy every day, but insomnia at night, his spleen and stomach began to feel seriously out of balance, and he couldn't eat much food. At this time, he began to realize that the work pressure was too great, so he intentionally increased the rest time and went to the hospital to see a doctor at the same time. The medicine prescribed by the doctor relieved his symptoms, but when he was resting, he still felt depressed, unable to arouse his interest, and even felt that his body had no strength. He always wondered if he was suffering from some serious illness?
As a result, unexpectedly, his turning point came from a class reunion.
When attending a party, he himself said that he went there with heavy steps and no strength. Then he felt that chatting with his classmates became easier and easier, and everyone laughed heartily and happily. Then he was surprised to find that after returning home, almost all the symptoms of discomfort disappeared. He couldn't believe it. After a few days, he was sure that his body had indeed recovered.
This made him very strange, so he asked me via WeChat: "Dr. Luo, is this possible? How is this possible? But it really happened to me. How can this be explained?"
In fact, this experience was completely beyond my expectation, but after careful analysis, I think there is a lot of truth in it. That is, class reunions are really good for your health.
So what's the point?
First of all, the illness this friend suffered from was not a serious organic disease. All his symptoms, including some organ disorders, were all due to his stress.
I have used a lot of effort to talk about what kind of harm emotional disorders will cause to the body. High pressure and uneasy liver qi will cause various problems in our internal organs. For example, unbalanced liver qi will cause digestive system disorders. Various stomach problems, intestinal constipation or diarrhea, etc., hyperactivity of liver yang can lead to various heart problems. Western medicine also believes that in the progress of heart disease, bad mood plays a very destructive role. , Uncomfortable liver qi can lead to respiratory system problems. The severe lung diseases I have seen in women basically have a background of bad mood, etc., such problems are very common, in fact , Most intractable diseases, if analyzed from the perspective of emotional disorders and liver qi discomfort, it is possible to find a solution.
Therefore, we must not underestimate this disease caused by emotions. This state of stress, depression, and depression is enough to cause people to have general feelings such as "the body is completely out of balance", "it is really difficult to recover", "there is no strength to live", etc. , even with such severe symptoms. In the medical field, this is called psychosomatic disease. It is a physical disease caused by the mind.
Therefore, my friend, all his problems are basically the consequences of heavy work pressure, long-term accumulation, and nowhere to relieve it.
So, why can class reunion solve this dilemma?
First of all, we need to know what are the characteristics of the student era? The student days were the most innocent times in our life. At that time, we didn't have such complicated interpersonal relationships. We laughed and scolded each other, and we didn't hold any grudges, and we forgot them in a blink of an eye. It's like when we see small animals, puppies, little lions and tigers, when they were young, they would bite and play together, but it was all for fun, and they didn't hold grudges. When they grow up, this kind of biting becomes a fight The nature of the territory and the acquisition of prey are completely different.
Therefore, the student days, for most of us, should be the time when our interpersonal relationships are the most relaxed. Therefore, we will find that the male classmates at that time would challenge and laugh at each other, but generally they would not hurt their feelings. , everyone seems to be practicing, growing up in challenges and laughter. At the class reunion, we would talk about embarrassing things in our school days, how to embarrass ourselves in public, what things we did so embarrassingly, how timid a boy was when he had a crush on a girl, how he was reprimanded by a certain teacher, etc. But now, when we talk, All are laughing and talking, including the parties themselves, will be very happy. The embarrassing things I have are brought up by my classmates every time they gather, and everyone laughs at them again every time, but we are all very happy. If we think about it carefully, we will be very curious, why these stories are brought up again and again, dozens of times or more, and everyone still enjoys it? The reason is, it takes us back to that relaxed state, relaxed relationships. At this time, we will let go of everything we have, reputation, status, etc., and return to the "original" state. This is very beneficial to our physical and mental relaxation.
Therefore, student time, everything, is the most precious treasure in our life. It is a very warm "field", just like the "womb" where a baby lived, it is our initial "field", and we will return to it. There, with all of us, there will be a psychological feeling of "rebooting".
Similar "fields", as well as the reunion of family members who have not seen for a long time, such as returning to their hometown and reuniting with long-lost relatives, will have a similar effect.
To give another example, business school gatherings, the bosses studying in business schools, besides studying, often hold parties. Sometimes the scene of this kind of gathering is surprising. Sing, dance, and joke with each other. I remember a party where I had just finished my lecture, and everyone invited me to participate, but I was dumbfounded. These usual bosses were like kindergarten children at this time, one by one pulling the back of the other, dancing circle dances in the venue, laughing and laughing , lined up the team and slowly danced forward with the music, full of joy. There happened to be a driver of the boss who came to deliver things. After seeing it, he was stunned and whispered to me: "Our boss still has such a side?"
In fact, this kind of activity is also such a process. Everyone forms a group and returns to the student days. This is a kind of complete psychological relaxation, which allows everyone to release their bad emotions and return to a relatively simple state of mind.
However, I don’t think all these scenes are as thorough as the reunion of classmates, because the school days are too long, and there are too many memories for us to recall in more than ten years, and there are too many opportunities for psychological restart.
Therefore, I think class reunion is basically a psychological adjustment. For those who are under too much pressure now, it is an opportunity to "let go", "backtrack" and "restart", which has many benefits.
The only caveats are:
1. Try not to compare yourself at class reunions, remember the past, and don’t compare yourself to the present.
2. At class reunions, try to limit drinking, and you should order as much as you can. The purpose is to reminisce, not to drink.
3. Classmate reunions should not be utilitarian, such as to increase business opportunities, to get in touch with the school belle who couldn't catch up, etc. Such ideas are not conducive to gatherings.
In addition, the class reunion, I think it has a great psychological conditioning effect, and has a very good adjustment and recovery effect on physical diseases caused by psychological pressure. Everyone should actively organize and participate actively. Students participating in class reunions should forward this article to him (her) to let them understand and change their minds, don't you think?
